Sexual Vampire, or sex addict?

Posted: Tuesday, 13 October, 2015 by deacongray in Uncategorized

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Part two of: What the hell is a sexual vampire?

How do I know if I am a Sexual Vampire, or just a perv with sexual hang ups?

 

Psychological studies show that most people have some sexual hang up. It’s a reasonable conclusion when you consider that the western world, in its own way, has so many sexual hang ups that in order for you not to have one, you would be considered a pervert in most places. Of course that doesn’t really answer the question.

So PsychCenteral.com describes sexual addition as “best described as a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts. Like all addictions, its negative impact on the addict and on the family member’s increases as the disorder progresses. Over time, the addict usually has to intensify the addictive behavior to achieve the same results.”- Psychcentral.com

 

They go on to talk about how it normally manifests in excessive masturbation, pornography, sex lines, on line liaisons and the like. Very few “Nympho-maniacs” actually go out chasing sex with physical partners on a regular bases. Indeed, the secrecy involved typically prohibits this kind of interaction.

The numbers are spooky though when you talk about sex addiction. 55% of convicted sex offenders are consider sexual addicts, and 71% of pedophiles are considered sex addicts. Sex addiction is a serious thing, and not to be taken lightly. If you are so compulsory that you have nearly no control over your behavior, than there is a problem and you should seek professional help.

This is not to say all sex addicts are criminals, indeed, while the numbers above seem high, the number of sex addicts who are criminals is pretty low. Most of them are happy with just watching porn, or flirting around on line.

So how is a Sexual Vampire different?

Well the compulsion part could say there is a psychological component to it. Indeed some of my inquiries have been into the idea that sexual vampirism could be normal vampirism combined with sexual addiction. While I cannot close the book on that line of thought, I tend to view it differently and here is my reasoning, for what it is worth.

A sexual addiction tends to manifest in people with early un-healthy sexual activity. This could be something like child molestation, or rape. It could be playing doctor with kids where things went too far based on the influence of an unhealthy participant in the normal sexual development of an individual.

Sexual vampires, while not excluded from this group, do not seem to have it as their common history. In the engagements I have had with various sexual vampires, the common thread isn’t a sexual assault, or abuse, it tends instead to be early interest on their own part, often combined with a sense of spiritualism that isn’t typical for a young child. While sexual activity itself might not be involved, the sense of it is present from a young age.

 

So one of the things that separates the two are those early influence. Of those this can be easily muddled because what happens if you are a undeveloped sexual vampire who gets molested? In the end you cannot really put up a clear dividing bar between the two based on this dynamic. However, I saw a trend between those who claimed sexual vampirism without any reported sexual assault.

The major difference is actually in the intimacy side. Sexual vampires tend to not have intimacy issues at all. Indeed they tend to be more intimate, some even empathic toward others, and they take great are not to cause harm, or hurt people emotionally.

Like I have said before most sexual vampires don’t even get into physical relationships with their donors, but do have stable home lives with a loving family. Instead the vampire tends to take care of the donor in a nearly fraternal manner, never crossing the lines, but always acting as a friend and sheep dog to their trusted family and friends.

Are there bad sexual vampires? Bad is subjective, and so the answer is…yes. When you really dig down to the core of a sexual vampire, they are still predatory. All vampires are. Some sexual vampires start to believe their own hype, and see uses for the skills that come naturally to them.

Manipulation is a huge part of every ones world, but a sexual vampire without ethical standards, learns how manipulation is much more powerful than people think, and they tend to put it to use in building their own ego, and position. If you see a sexual vampire that is developing a large string of donors, and is dishonest about it, than you are facing someone who has started to use their skills for intentions passed their need to feed.

 

If manipulation is huge, self-confidence or ‘the presence’ can be a monster to deal with. People who truly believe their own hype, tend to drag people into their wake. We all like to think we are not easily drawn into these things, but look around you. How many flock to one banner, or event even though there are a lot of reports of misbehavior? Anyone can learn to develop self-confidence, or at least project it, but a sexual vampire who uses manipulation, self-confidence and other such skills to draw people in and use them isn’t doing good things. That doesn’t mean they are evil, but even good people can do evil things.

 

If sexual vampires are real, why haven’t we heard of them much historically?

The Idea of the Romantic vampire is actually fairly new in literature. Sexual vampires aren’t Dracula, they aren’t sparkling perpetual nineteen year olds. Yet, how would you know one if you saw on in history? Are there figures in history that had some of those tell-tale, commonalities?

Making those links as if they were definitive is pointless, but we can look back at the culture, the people and subjectively conceive of such things being present, if not known, throughout history.

The Marquee De Sade, a well-known player and lover of women, his exploits are the things of novels and dreams. Was he a sexual vampire? Most likely not, but that doesn’t change the behavior, or the pattern of various people’s behavior that could be considered the actions of a sexual vampire.

If I were to place the Marquee into my categories of sexual vampires where do you think he would fit? For me he was the ‘tempter’ a wicked man who by most accounts wasn’t all that physically attractive, and yet he managed to draw the wicked little girls and boys of court to his chambers and into types of sexual play that was basically unmentionable in his time. Does this make him a vampire…no, but it shows how such a creature could interact and remain out of mention.

It is my believe that the countless examples of sexually progressive people in history provides perfect cover for a vampire whose very delights are the things an inquisition, or puritan council might find objectionable. So for me it is not a question of whether they can be found in history, it’s how can they be identified with in history?

More in part 3

 

 

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Comments
  1. vampyrian says:

    Well many in the community dont believe the myths however even in myths there is truth in there and there are sexual vampires in there you just have to cut out the facts from the fiction and I could tell you much is still in there

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